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Divorce: some thoughts

  Become familiar with the research regarding reasons for divorce. One specific research topic I was surprised about was in a book that Dr. Michelle Weiner-Davis. Dr. Michelle Weiner-Davis is a licensed and certified marriage and family therapist and an author of several marriage and family therapy books. In one of her books she told couples and audiences that “they can stop divorce single-handedly”, this was a hard pill to swallow for married couples. When there is a big task or problem no one lies to do it alone while other people sit around. It’s not fair, right? I really liked this principle, however, it reminds me of other movies I’ve seen. It is called fireproof. This movie is about a married couple, the husband is a firefighter and the wife is a nurse. On top of their busy work schedules, they are also drifting away due to pornography addictions and other co-workers getting a little flirty. The husband finally realizes he doesn't want to get a divorce, he first works on his ...
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“With great power comes great responsibility” from Uncle Ben to Parents.

 Parenting: The Power and Responsibility. Superhero movies are all the rage nowadays. They dominate the media and social platforms. Whether you are a die hard fan or merely a casual observer, there is no escaping the presence and influence of the superhero trend. Among these popular characters is one you may have heard of, Spider-man, your friendly neighborhood friend. In an important and character building scene, Spider-man’s uncle tells him this famous quote, “With great power comes great responsibility”. As we get older we can see the truth of this principle highlight our lives. When we own a car, we have the power to go and travel anywhere we want! On the other hand we must do regular maintenance, car insurance, and safe driving. I argue that having children is the biggest responsibility there is. We have so much power as parents; however, power, power is a big word? What is power? Power sometimes has a bad connotation and is portrayed as dangerous in history, stories, and medi...
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WORK HARD and play hard.

 Everyone has heard of the following quotes and phrases “work hard play hard” or maybe “work now play later”, I believe there is a deeper life lesson as to why it’s in that specific order, work then play. In life it's inevitable to work, to be tried, to do hard things. When it comes to work, and hard work specifically, there are things we can learn. I argue that hard work can help us see people as they truly are, helps us grow self-confidence, and can better prepare us to serve and help others. Working reveals our true colors: In class we discussed together about the importance of working, working as a couple and working as a family. This conversation was right down my alley. I grew up in the midwest, Missouri, with my hardworking and diligent family. Growing up we were often reminded that two of the most important decisions we make in this life are 1.) Who we marry, and 2.) and the friends we choose. In addition, my father often told me to choose my friends based on not how fun th...
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Nose goes

  Nose goes, flipping coins, drawing straws, rock-paper-scissors, and eenie meenie miney mo are all popular methods of decision making; however, the question is, is it the most effective approach? When we were young we learned how to interact with others. When we were younger we were told to “play nice” and “treat others the way you like to be treated”. As children we were more forgiving, accepting, loving, and understanding. I believe all those traits are natural and instinctive for children. I have 20+ nephews and nieces. It's a daily occurrence that they will fight, argue, and bicker on with another. Likewise, it's a daily occurrence that they forgive each other and return back to playing and making messes around the house. My point being, when we were kids it was second nature to be kind, forgiving, and understanding. On the contrary, as I have grown up I have observed that we as adults tend to grow out of these characteristics. What happens in between? What is the differen...
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Choose to kick depression in the butt.

  This week in our lectures Professor Williams took some time during lecture to talk about depression. This topic was beyond intriguing. My Professor revealed that his family and he had struggled with depression throughout their life. He shared about the crippling hardships and difficult hindrances of depression. After battling with depression he has found that there is one specific thing that helped him the most effectively get over his depression. That thing was a change of mindset. My professor believes strongly that depression is not a chemically imbalanced brain, but that instead, it is an overwhelming tendency to feel and think negatively, an attitude. Along with clinical and scientific studies that would prove this principle is also his heartfelt testimony that we as humans have the power and capability to choose--we have agency. We can choose to be happy, and we can choose to have joy. If we believe, and if it's true, that depression is a permanent condition that will ail u...
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Mens brains versus womens brains

  Mens brains versus womens brains. I watch this youtube video once (I will include the link below) anyways this youtube video is of a comedian entertaining his audience with his comedy routine. Have you ever heard the saying “it’s funny because it’s true”, good because this skit was beyond funny because it is so true.  In this comedians show here you used a visual display to explain the difference in men and women’s “brains” in their ways and method of thinking. On one's display he has the man’s Brian demonstrated with boxes. When men think we are usually organized by topic. For example he says when we’re at work we go to our “work” box and we open it and we don’t think outside of the box.  When we go home we close the work box and open the evening box. We are in the world we open. Men often don’t open more than one box at a time. Women however he illustrates as a big knot of yarn, all twisted and tangled in itself. Women are thinking about everything all at the same tim...
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Filling the cracks

During our lecture today, we discussed a  typical situation that often occurs in the daily lives of those families around us and not surprisingly in our own lives. Very often a family's financial status or financial desires demand the “money maker” of the home to sacrifice their time at home in order to put more hours on the clock, as a result they lose quality time with their family. Sometimes, this is a necessary action on behalf of the source of income. It’s a hard decision, and should be planned out and agreed on by the entire family. This decision affects everyone in and even out of the household, people have to step up, family members take on more responsibility, and if done in unity this experience can strengthen a family, likewise it can also tear a family apart. This common scenario requires unity and love in order to end stronger than before.. Unity is a broad word, when I think of unity I think of clear, concise communication, and thorough planning. Whoever said, “It’s m...
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